Friday, February 29, 2008

Coincidence?

This familiar ditty came on when I was channel surfing. Thereafter, I switched channels and was a tad surprised to find it on another channel. Shortly after, my fingers clicked on a random channel and voila, this song appeared again for the third consecutive time! Won't Go Home Without You first hit the airwaves in 2007 so this freaky coincidence led me to switch activities and leap off the couch.

Lyrics
I asked her to stay but she wouldn’t listen
She left before I had the chance to say
The words that would mend the things that were broken
But now it’s far too late, she’s gone away

Every night you cry yourself to sleep
Thinking, “Why does this happen to me?
Why does every moment have to be so hard?”
Hard to believe it

It’s not over tonight
Just give me one more chance to make it right
I may not make it through the night
I won’t go home without you

The taste of her breath, I’ll never get over
The noises that she made kept me awake
The weight of things that remain unspoken
Built up so much it crushed us everyday

Of all the things I felt but never really shown
Perhaps the worst is that I ever let you go
I should not ever let you go, oh oh oh

[ Won't Go Home Without You - Maroon 5 ]

Thursday, February 28, 2008

Seen on Facebook...

A surefire way to garner clientele at count zero :



  • Promote a service on a networking platform where half of your potential clients have yet to earn a dime.

  • Bundle a FREE GIFT (how typical of Singaporeans to get bug-eyed with the four sacred letters, F-R-E-E , right? ) of irrelevance. I'm not sure about you, but what are the chances of the lady crooning, "Sure honey, now that we're done with the aircon servicing, let's have a massage?" Pretty low, I'd bet.

  • This takes the cake. We know a picture paints a thousand words and in this case, it masks delicate sensibilities when the precious pixels on expensive advertising space is of the free gift instead of the actual service being promoted. It's akin to promoting There Will Be Blood in the skin of Paul Dono while sidelining Daniel Day-Lewis. [ Aside : Mich has a weakness for Daniel Day-Lewis, Morgan Freeman, Johnny Depp & Leonardo Dicaprio! Acting finesse personified! A must-watch is Daniel Day-Lewis & Leonardo Dicaprio in Gangs of New York. Nope, Mich did not jump on the bandwagon because of the Oscar-milked There Will Be Blood. ]

That said, my air-con tantrum-throwing spasms are inducing a headache. Perhaps I do need this package after all? Hmmm....

Wednesday, February 27, 2008

Hello, there....


Happy Birthday, Daniel. =)

Tuesday, February 26, 2008

A Walk In The Night.


Pic @ DeviantArt
It's a strange day
No colours or shapes
No sound in my head..

..There's no reason
There’s no sense
I’m not supposed to feel

I forget who I am
I forget

Fascist baby
Utopia, utopia

[ Goldfrapp - Utopia ]

Monday, February 25, 2008

Trust.

To whom do you hand its key?

What gives?

Gut instinct? Rationale overdrive?

Decisions, decisions - Festering, fleshing, pervasive, they weave unobliterated.

The pantomime fans its oblique candour.

The curtains, oh yes, those lush velvet excuses of grandeur - they, oh my, they too, will have to fall.

SomeTing.



Out of boredom, I fiddled with an old photograph taken on Ting's Birthday in May 2007. She loved it and promptly set it as her desktop pic! =)

To...

Y.
O.
U.

Can You Predict Happiness?

Apparently, Leion saw it fitting to share this article. Thanx, Leion!

Can You Predict Happiness?
By Tiffany Sharples
Tuesday, Feb. 19, 2008

If you think you can predict what you will like, think again. When people try to estimate how much they will enjoy a future experience, they are dependably wrong, according to research by Harvard psychologists — and the reason is something they call "attentional collapse." When we imagine future experiences, we tend to compare them with alternative experiences — experiences we've had in the past, or other experiences we might have before or after. But the fact is that none of those alternatives come into play once we're actually in the moment. That's what Daniel Gilbert, author and Harvard psychology professor, means by "attentional collapse": it's the idea that when we are actually having an engaging, encompassing experience, it acts like a black hole of imagination, sucking in all of our attention and making our preconceptions irrelevant.

The thought of a weekend office picnic, for example, sounds tedious compared with a trip to the spa, but fun compared with working overtime on a Sunday. But these comparisons have little bearing on our actual experience of the picnic because once we arrive and start chatting with colleagues or playing softball, the experience draws our attention away from the alternatives. "The kinds of comparisons we're making when we're imagining the future aren't the kinds we make when we get there," Gilbert says.

In his latest research, conducted in collaboration with social psychologist Carey Morewedge of Carnegie Mellon University and presented last weekend at the American Association for the Advancement of Science conference in Boston, Gilbert bolsters the theory that our inability to predict enjoyment of our future experiences keeps us from accurately predicting what will make us happiest in the future overall.

Take the simple act of eating a potato chip. In a series of experiments, Gilbert invited Harvard undergraduates to a lab stocked with potato chips, along with either sardines or chocolate. To compare expected versus actual enjoyment of the experience, one group of students was asked to predict how much they would enjoy the chips compared to the relatively better food (chocolate) or the worse food (sardines); this forecasting group was asked to imagine eating the chips before, after or instead of the alternatives. Students in another "experience" group were instructed to eat the chips and the other foods. Turns out that the other foods had no impact on the actual enjoyment of eating chips. "People who are simply imagining how much they're going to like chips imagine they're going to like them much more if they're eaten after sardines, than if they're eaten after chocolate," Gilbert says. "That's wrong."

Whether the students ate chips before or after sardines or chocolate, it made no difference. Rather, eating a potato chip was an experience unto itself. "It's the taste of that crackily, greasy, salty, crunchy, fried potato flavor — it's the consuming experience you're having and your attention collapses on this moment," says Gilbert.


So what does eating potato chips have to do with our larger, more important life decisions? Consider the choice to marry one sweetheart over another. If you pick the genial, down-to-earth banker, will you forever regret letting go of that free-spirited artist who loves travelling as much as you? Probably not. The very fact that you'll be living with — and experiencing — one spouse and not the other means that the passed-over option will quickly fade in your mind. "The people you don't marry don't move in with you," says Gilbert.

Envisioning what life would have been like with an alternate spouse becomes difficult and increasingly irrelevant as you settle into the life you've selected. "Once you make a choice in life, the unchosen alternatives evaporate," he says. According to Gilbert's earlier research, which he featured in his 2006 book, Stumbling on Happiness, when faced with an irrevocable decision, people are happier with the outcome than when they have the opportunity to change their minds. "It's a very powerful phenomenon," he says. "This is really the difference between dating and marriage."

But what if the person you didn't marry moved in next door? Suddenly your attention isn't completely collapsed on your own marriage, and every day you can witness the alternative life you overlooked. ( Aside : How apt. Proximity gave Mich reason to uproot and leave. )

Gilbert simulated that scenario with potato chips. As in the other experiments, one group of students was asked to eat the chips and other foods, and another was asked to imagine doing so. Only this time, two more groups were asked to eat — or imagine eating — to the beat of a metronome. Those who ate at a normal pace — one chip for every 15 seconds — came to the same misguided conclusions as other students: predictions did not correspond to their actual levels of enjoyment. Yet those who ate chips more slowly, one every 45 seconds, had very different results. Their forecasts were almost completely accurate.

Eating the chips slowly is an "experience that isn't engaging, so your mind is free to wander to all of the other things you could have been doing," Gilbert says. The same phenomenon occurs while driving, when you move into the right lane, only to have the traffic stall as the left lane speeds by. Suddenly, "it really hurts to be in the right lane," he says. "You're not driving, you're not engaged, you're not navigating. You're just sitting and your mind can wander and you can think about all the things you might have done instead of getting in the right lane."

Yet the moments when we are actually able to dedicate that level of comparison to an experience while we're having it are few and far between, Gilbert says. In the vast majority of scenarios, "the roads we don't take in life disappear a lot more quickly than we think they will."

So what does this mean for how we should contemplate our next big decision? For Gilbert, it's simple. "When looking into the future, never trust your gut. That doesn't mean it's always wrong, you should just never trust it. It never hurts to stop and ask."

Saturday, February 23, 2008

Between Us.

To date, this is one of the rare cheena songs which has found its place here. Converging impressions of jarring notions, my thoughts were set adrift on memory's bliss as the car cruised along the highway.

"A Promise, Broken
A Trickle, Unbroken."
- Mich

爱爱爱爱了几回
Having been in love repeatedly,
也明白其中滋味
Empathisizing the context within.
付出的从来不会等于收回
What has been given cannot be retracted.
我却还在等待着谁能出现
I'm still waiting, alas, for whom to appear?

伤伤伤伤了几回
Having been hurt repeatedly,
也曾经为爱憔悴
Having been worn down by love
爱情里好人总比坏人狼狈
The Good invariably suffers more than the Evil
我却还是学不会狠心对谁
But I've yet to learn to be cold towards You.

男人男人多希望你是好人
My man, my man, I do wish that you're a good person.
多希望用你的真让我不必再心疼
With immense hope do I wish that your true self manifests without hurting me again.
女人女人我答应做个好人
My lady, my lady, I promise to be a good man.
我答应用我一生来换你的快乐一生
I promise to exchange my life for one of happiness for You.

男人男人多希望你是好人
My man, my man, I do wish that you're a good person.
多希望用你的真让我不必再心疼
With immense hope do I wish that your true self manifests without hurting me again.
女人女人我答应做个好人
My lady, my lady, I promise to be a good man.
不会再让我(你)心疼一等再等
I will not let you wait repeatedly in vain.
你就是我等的那个人
You are the One whom I've been waiting for.

男人男人
My man, My man.
女人女人
My lady, My lady
多么希望你是对的人
I hope that You are the Right One for Me.

Friday, February 22, 2008

In the Red.



The bulbous tip fleshes its rage.

I'm talking about my nose, an oft-indicator of my personal well-being. While my tissue strips ply the nostrils (pun intended) , my orbs are fixated on the Bible Verse of the Day.



Even with 9 am and 10.30pm being the markers of my working hours and beyond, I have no complaints, for I truly enjoy the nature of my current job.

Well, plastic scuffles and drips aside, the Nose is protesting vehemently with choral refrains of Achoo.

Unplugged.

Encore, anyone?

Thursday, February 21, 2008

Tracks.



I thought of You today
And I knew God must have heard.
You came and sat and smiled at me
Although You spoke no word.

Of crimson skies and rolling tides,
We ran in sands anew.
With dreams and hopes and flutterbys,
This lullaby soon bade adieu.

-- Mich

Tuesday, February 19, 2008

With This.

Yes, a clone would suffice to fill my minute voids.

As such, my demanding schedule reigns and the uploading of photographs will have to be shelved aside till time permits.

I do wish to pander and leave appropriate inscriptions within this literary perimeter.

But for now, Sleep eludes me.

Goodnight, dear Reade....zZzZz...

Friday, February 15, 2008

Happy Valentine's Day!

It's 4am and I have just returned home from a night out on Valentine's Day!

I am bushed to the max! =)

Here's my lazy entry prior to the entry proper which I shall get down to doing by this weekend ( Procrastination, be gone! =p ) :
  • Dinner : Aquamarine @ Marina Mandarin
  • Cost : a whisker away from $200
  • Unexpectedly, the elderly man seated next to us caught sight of the shutterbug in me and initiated conversation. Apparently, the gregarious Uncle was quite happy to be posing for numerous shots himself! We spent 3 hours at Aquamarine with the elderly couple. It turns out that he is the boss of the factory that supplies essential Chinese staples islandwide! The man has a string of houses and a fleet of cars yet he displayed none of the ostentatious airs one would have expected. He remarked that I was like a daughter to him (?!?!) and took us around the hotel. Hotel staff were clamouring to please him as he was a regular (he had been dining at the hotel for the last 15 days. Such extravagance!) and likewise, we received VIP treatment by default. He took us around the hotel restaurants and hotel staff stopped in their tracks to banter with him. Finally, we exchanged contacts before parting. Uncle said that he would make yam cake for me if I were to visit him in future. (?!?! I was stumped yet again.) It was a rather intimidating experience, I must admit!
  • Next, the Man and I headed to our usual KTV joint for 3 hours of narcisstic renditions. The entire building was packed! There was an ongoing promotion of $88++ which included a rose and a badge. Common sense prevailed and I chose the normal package of $60 instead. [ Mich doesn't like flowers much although the occasional tulip or unusual flower would be acceptable. ] For some reason, the boss was chummy with us and we received VIP treatment again with numerous staff fussing over us. One of the female staff went to the extent of holding my arm as I went to the lavatory! (Huh?! Why??!) I received curious stares from other customers in the joint and to be honest, I was a tad embarrassed at this blatant display. Needless to say, those hours at the karaoke joint were thoroughly enjoyable!

So, here I am, bidding my dear Readers adieu for the night!

I think I have had quite enough excitement thus far! =)

(Stay tuned for pictures over the weekend!)

Thursday, February 14, 2008

Flutterby.

我想找个答案
I seek an answer
如果爱被出卖到最后非卖品有什么剩下
What are the remnants of a betrayed love?
太好强又太傻受了伤
Fighting a losing battle on the receiving end of Hurt.
当赠品留下包装的坚强
The facade envelopes this gift,
笑的那么自然悲伤也放进橱窗
Beaming in mock delight while despondence is tucked away.

爱没有答案
Love has no answers.
再倔强再不放到最后被看穿一个人逞强
A stubborn refusal to let go will only result in a single effort of bravado.
说不恨是骗人
It'll be a lie to say that there's no hate
我不再隐瞒爱的伤痕
I'm not concealing these scars.
不舍转过身不必回头的承认
Reluctant to stride in the opposite direction without turning back.
非卖品是爱最美的灵魂

[ 非卖品 - Jolin ]

Wednesday, February 13, 2008

Danny & Daddy

The child in me loves Danny & Daddy to bits! For some reason, I find this series heartwarming and poignant. (If you're lucky, you can catch it in between scheduled programmes on Kids Central. My lil Princess is glued to the screen when it comes on!)

Each clip invariably starts with Daddy entering the house while Danny is about to squiggle on his paper. With earnest enthusiasm, Daddy tries to guess repeatedly what Danny has in mind as he draws.

If Daddy gets it right, both parties cheer but this moment is shortlived as Daddy turns to leave. Danny is saddened and Daddy cheers him up by telling Danny that he is loved.

If Daddy gets it wrong after the addition of details, Daddy shows disappointment that his attempts are for nought and walks towards the door with slouched shoulders. As Daddy draws away (pun not intended), Danny quickly draws a red heart. Comforted, Daddy is all smiles again and Danny shares Daddy's delight with his giggles.

Watch and enjoy! =)



If you liked this, you may want to check out this link for the official sample on BabyTV.

Monday, February 11, 2008

Mich Isn't Feeling Too Good.

I'm feeling very ill as these letters spread across the screen. Having spent more than half an hour in the lavatory, the hours ahead seem bleak.

A short break now allows this being to lull momentarily before work beckons.

10pm, anyone? =(

Updated (4am)
After coming close to fainting while seeing stars and worrying oneself to death on the prevailing condition (try spending almost an hour in the lavatory!), I'm relieved that the symptoms have been alleviated. Compounding my earlier fears was the hypotheses Vern was churning out (the lady wields an impending PhD, so I was all ears at what she had to say.) I'm just glad to say that God has saved me from a trip to the hospital! Amen! =)

It's Just One of Those Days.

It's funny how a song leeches itself and sets reels in time on the cogwheels of motion.

Pasted memories across the wall. A laugh. A smile. Each day trudging, adrift from that which was.

Is it worth the wait if misery takes precedence over the ounce of happiness sprinkled occasionally? Where does one rest with the infinite tarrying?

Unless....
But.

依恋坐在我旁边
厚厚的想念随月光蔓延
依恋跟在你身边
看你的笑脸吻你的唇边
如果爱是坐秋千
你就是我的原点


依恋是一叠昨天
你给的抱歉多想没听见
依恋是一条天线
只收到从前回忆的画面
没有你会怎么演
那些你说的永远

依恋就让它依恋
毕竟拥有过你一段时间
或许分开是一种所谓的成全
爱我会放在心里面
有些事不会有期限

依恋是一条天线
只收到从前回忆的画面
没有你会怎么演
那些你说的永远


依恋就让它依恋
毕竟拥有过你一段时间
或许分开是一种所谓的成全
爱我会放在心里面
有些事不会有期限

依恋坐在我旁边
厚厚的想念随月光蔓延
依恋跟在你身边
看你的笑脸吻你的唇边
如果爱是坐秋千
你就是我的原点

没有你会怎么演
那些你说的永远


[ 依恋 - 蔡淳佳 ]

Sunday, February 10, 2008

Hi, This Is Me.

Opening up is the most arduous task you can ask of me. Even if you know me well enough to know a few secrets, there would invariably be a portion of me that remains jealously guarded - out of sight from prying eyes which have no business to be delving in my matters in the first place.

Still, there are times when I'd curl in a ball under the covers, feeling sorry for myself and wishing that the phone would ring so I could unleash what was pent-up to this random caller.

Sometimes, it does. Yet, instinct props the pickets up and detection of weakness is strictly forbidden. On the receiving end, the caller hears nothing but a chirpy voice peppered with giggles to mask any pain.

The following excerpt from HappyPepper expresses my innate thoughts and struggling issues :

"What did I learn from these precious lessons? I learned to keep all things important to me away from them. They never saw me play tennis, they never read any of my writings, and they never saw me in my high school play. But of course, all things fall over to other parts of our lives. I learned to keep all things precious to me away from anybody. I suppose that's why I am afraid of getting close to anyone. I am afraid that they'll find out that I'm not good enough."

"Everybody needs people but I have a stubborn independence that denies my need of help. It must stem from trying to console myself for the lack of company. I crave it, but it also threatens me. I don't want to need anybody. I don't want to depend on anybody. I just want to take care of my own. This causes me to shut people out, especially when I need them most. I am unwilling to become vulnerable to someone, because I don't want to give them the chance to hurt me. "

It takes a lot for me to trust Someone so it comes across as poetic injustice when the chosen person betrays this fundamental notion. As such, repeated scenarios with varying characters leave me wan, jaded and doubtfully questioning my sense of judgement, which apparently has misguided bearings.

So, the Hedgehog curls inwards yet again.

And that, is Me.

Now, what about You?

Louis Vuitton - A Gift From The Man.

Mich is all smiles....
....with her Louis Vuitton gift from The Man! =)

Friday, February 08, 2008

Whispers.

Goodnight. =)

The Ubiquitous Absence - An Oxymoron



Some weeks ago, Mich's roving eyes rested on this at a pharmacy. Emblazed across were the words "When in doubt, consult our pharmacist".

A quick check with the dispensing hours for that week gleaned nothing less than the outré :
  • Monday : Off duty
  • Tuesday : Off duty
  • Wednesday : Off duty
  • Thursday : Off duty
  • Friday : Off duty
  • Saturday : ________ ( yes, it was literally a blank slate. Huh?!?!?!)
  • Sunday : 10am - 6pm

Needless to say, Mich left without purchasing her medicine.

By Golly, Pow Wow!



"The Youth Expedition Project (YEP) has been a key programme to encourage volunteerism among our youth since its inception in 2000. YEP supports youth to embark on community Service-Learning projects with the objectives of building up self-confident youth volunteers who can identify needs and contribute to the community both at home and abroad."

Mich has been an avid supporter of charitable causes as a child. A soft spot is reserved for the weak, poor, children and elderly. She has participated actively in World Vision activities, had numerous visitations of old folks' homes and orphanages, gave free tuition to the poor and as a student in Temasek Junior College, Mich was in the Publishing Committee of the LEO Club, which had won the very prestigious International LEO Club Award while she was serving. ( Are you surprised? Heh. )

Then, priorities and commitments rattled along and cluttered a large part of Mich's life. She hopes to reignite this passion again. Currently, Mich is roped in as a volunteer at the World Vision Famine Camp in June and is looking forward to opportunities in the YEP.

Looking at her punishing schedule on Tuesday, she hopes that it would (albeit miraculously) permit time for this event, in which expeditioners are to share their experiences. The following is a list of what to expect :
  • Presenter: Benjamin, Radion International
    Topic: Project which provides direct humanitarian relief for 8000+ Laotian Hmongs in a refugee camp in Thailand.
    Link: http://newlifeoutreach.blogspot.com/
  • Presenter: Jared Tham, Refugees SG
    Topic: recce for a project for Burmese Kachin refugees in Kuala Lumpur. The aim is to create expeditions which are sustainable and practical, and can be carried out over several weekends with minimum cost.
    Link: http://thestar.com.my/youth2/story.asp?file=/2007/6/20/youth2/20070619185502&sec=youth2
  • Presenter: Tay Lai Hock, Ground Up Initiative
    Topic: GUI is a group that initially came together to provide humanitarian relief for the Johor flood victims. It now works to foster kinship between Man and Earth through sustainable activities, and aspires to grow a flourishing community that drives local and global environmental initiatives.
  • Presenter: Willy Ong, The Choice Initiative
    Topic: Sanlaap is a NGO in West Bengal which focuses on trafficking of women and children for commercial sexual exploitation, sexual abuse and forced prostitution. TCI has so far done 5 expeditions with this organisation.
    Link: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sanlaap
  • Presenter: Poh Jiansheng, Coast 2 Coast Team V, Ayer Rajah - West Coast CC
    Topic: Education project in Mumbai, for a NGO named Doorstep School, which makes basic education easily accessible to non-school-going children in the slums with slum classrooms and mobile schools.
    Link: http://www.doorstepschool.org/
  • Presenter: Farheen Mukri
    Topic: Punjab Lok Sujag is a NGO in Lahore, Pakistan, working specifically on child labour and child rights. Its coordinator is keen to receive volunteers who can bring ideas of creative play into the lives of children there, and encouraging them to engage in non-formal education.
    Link: http://www.dawn.com/2007/10/28/nat35.htm
  • Presenter: Lakshmi, Coast 2 Coast Team VI, Ayer Rajah-West Coast CCC
    Topic: Group assisted with the replacement of roof tiles, construction of toilets and shower rooms for Maranatha Home in Ooty, India, and also conducted lifeskills workshops for its 42 boys. It also painted murals & upgraded computers at Smyrna Home in Ooty.

Anyone interested? =)

Monday, February 04, 2008

Mich is Sleepy.

As I type, my eyes are half shut.
I'm dozing off.
Goodnight.
ZzZzZz.......

Friday, February 01, 2008

Twist and Shout!

Common sense told Mich that $500 was not a figure to be blown away at Monsoon Hair House which is owned by celebrity hairstylist Addy Lee (incidentally the arch-nemesis of hair mongul David Gan).

Thus, Mich trotted off to its sister salon, Twister, a joint collaboration between Addy Lee and Mediacorp artistes Mark Lee & Michelle Chia.


My $300+ package included:
Rebonding + Colouring + Upgrade to Japanese Treatment
[ That's after a 50% promotional discount on Colouring! Gosh! ]

Hairstylist Wendy and I hit it off immediately. [ I love her asymmetrical bob! ] I found that we shared similar traits and proceeded to ask if she were a Scorpio like me. She replied, "Scorpio's best match!" and immediately, I chimed "Pisces!". We chorused in unison "Danger!" in response to some random topic and engaged in similar gregarious banter. However, Mich turned down the offer of being inducted as a member. Membership came at varying hefty price tags of $300, $500 and $700 respectively. *sweat*

Unknown to me, she is in charge of the hairstyles of celebrities and hosts in the weekly local entertainment programme that is screened on Saturdays. Additionally, she was handpicked to be Boss Addy's assistant in a live contest that showcased the latest hairstyles.

Boss Addy Lee & Wendy

Backstage : Wendy with an apparently tired contestant

I love Wendy's asymmetrical bob!

6 hours was frittered away on rebonding. Mich was too tired [ read : sian ] to plough through the Colouring & Japanese Treatment Sessions and so, get this, I'll be heading back to Twister on Tuesday to complete them. Quite the salon novice that I am, this is the only hair salon I've encountered that permits the return five days later to complete a promotional package which is normally laden with hidden costs or stifling terms and conditions at other salons.

Mich is duly impressed and forsees herself being a loyal customer of Wendy for a long, long while. Prior to this, Mich's hairstylist for haircuts had been Miss E of Reds Hairdressing since 1998. It was only after Miss E botched Mich's haircut 3 weeks ago did Mich decide it was time for a new hairstylist. My only grouse about Twister is the distance from home!

Thanks, Wendy! =)